Raising children in the UK: the screams of Zimbabwean migrant parents

ABSTRACT Zimbabweans in the United Kingdom (UK) are currently a ‘silent subset’ of the broader migrant population, warranting further investigation into their experiences once settled in the UK. This study explored Zimbabwean migrant parents’ experiences of bearing and raising children in the UK and how they sustain their children’s health and wellbeing. The Silences Framework (TSF) offers a lens through which the Zimbabwean parents’ experiences are made visible in this study. Hermeneutic phenomenology was employed as a research methodology from van Manen's perspective and data was collected through in-depth interviews with 10 Zimbabwean parents settled in South Yorkshire, UK. Findings from this study show that parenting experiences in the UK are largely influenced by cultural background, religious beliefs and how the parents were raised. Parenting in a new culture requires parents to rely on an interdependent system of support. There is concern about the children's sense of belonging in the UK. Research findings help to increase knowledge on the Zimbabwean diaspora, add insight in the everyday life of migrant families and therefore influence policies, practices and future research. While some findings are specific to the Zimbabwean diaspora, others are concerns that migrant families have irrespective of place of origin.


Introduction
Child-rearing for Black families in the UK exists in a framework that encompasses British heritage and own cultural background; and this involves parents operating between two often contradicting cultures (Ochieng and Hylton 2010).The UK is increasingly diverse and this presents a varied context of experiences and different constructions of service systems which can lead to misunderstandings of appropriate actions to sustain children's health and wellbeing.Five percent of migrants granted settlement in the UK in 2015 were Zimbabweans (Migration Observatory 2017).There are several notable waves of migration from Zimbabwe, driven by push factors such as political instability, low wages and high unemployment rates (Tevera and Zinyama 2002); and pull factors such as the need for workforce in some UK sectors (Moriarty et al. 2008).Migration of the Zimbabwean population may suggest the intention to capitalise on the perceived supportive systems for family welfare.With most of the migrants being of reproductive ages, many children are born to migrant parents in the UK everyday (United Nations Population Fund 2019).Parenting experiences is thus a concerning theme in migration studies.Kanchense (2006) points out that the patriarchal values in family structure and some aspects of the Zimbabwean culture position women as primary caregivers of children.Thus, the notion of men being the breadwinner is still prevalent in most of some families today.Post-Independent Zimbabwe features transformed family institutions that are more nuclear such that the elite can employ a domestic helper, thus building new social and cultural scripts which reflect class differences (Gaidzanwa 2003).A recent review of literature shows that migrant parents might find parenting isolating because of loss of support from the extended family (Machaka et al. 2021).Most African family institutions are not only made up of biological connections but also include non-biological relations, extended family and kinship networks who function within a collective cultural space in supporting each other to raise children (Mugadza et al. 2019;Oheneba-Sakyi and Takyi 2006).The extended family is an important part in the Zimbabwean context which features responsibilities for those within it, such as ensuring family security.
A review by Mugadza et al. (2019) based on Australian studies noted a rise in notifications to child protection services regarding suspected abuse and neglect by families from migrant backgrounds.This might indicate how the families are disempowered in navigating the socio-political environment.This study reveals that parents were cautious of child protection laws in the UK.Raffaetà (2016) recognises the family as a site for negotiation between the role of parents and that of the state.
The way that society views and treats children especially as widely expressed in the media is of concern for most migrant parents (Manase 2013).Such views which result in marginalisation or racism against the participants affect their feelings of belonging or (un)belonging.However, there is some evidence that migrants are affected differently based on factors such as legal status or economic resources in the destination country (Powell and Rishbeth 2012).The differences and subjectivity in the context of migrant parents' experiences may have an impact on their parenting journey.Previous migrant-related research has considered Black families as a homogeneous group not explaining differences in experiences according to ethnicities (Ochieng and Hylton 2010).It is possible that literature is more skewed towards professional interests and not to priority areas for the Black community.Silences are embedded in multiple factors; hence this study uses this lens to understand Zimbabwean migrants' experiences.

Aim of the study
The aim of this research which I conducted as part of my PhD was to explore the Zimbabwean migrant parents' experiences of bearing and raising children in the UK and their perspectives of how they sustain their children's health and wellbeing.Ethical clearance to undertake this study was obtained from the University which I was affiliated with (ER6378305).
The specific questions of the research were: i.What is Zimbabwean migrant parents' experience of bearing and raising children in the UK? ii.How do Zimbabwean parents sustain their children's health and wellbeing?
The growth of the Zimbabwean population in the UK and globally has also increased scholarship on the group.Most of the scholarship to date has focused on South Africa and the UK which house larger concentrations of migrant Zimbabweans.While some UK research focuses on the Zimbabwean diaspora, still very little is known about Zimbabweans parenting experiences.Broadly, most attention has been drawn to topics of transnationalism (Bloch 2008;McGregor 2009;Miriyoga 2017;Pasura 2012;Pasura 2013), health and sexual health (Chinouya and O'Keefe 2006;Hana 2010), professional life in the Health and Social Care sector (Chogugudza 2018;Madziva, McGrath, and Thondhlana 2016;McGregor 2007;McGregor 2008;Oheneba-Sakyi and Takyi 2006), cultural and associational life in the UK (Kendrick 2010;Miller 2010;Pasura 2011;Tasosa 2018), media representation, power of the internet and technology in connecting Zimbabweans (Manase 2013;Mano and Willems 2008) and defining or redefining gender identities (Chikwira 2021).Discussions about migrant parenting mostly focus on the health and wellbeing of children left behind by migrants in their home countries (Madziva and Zontini 2012) and specific health conditions (Condon and McClean 2017).The lack of wider research on how migrant parents sustain their children's overall health & wellbeing once settled in the UK subject confers marginalisation of the subject and the Zimbabwean diaspora.Such indications which make the research gap transparent have helped to understand the 'silences' embedded in this research subject.Exploration of the context of this study highlights that migrant parents' experiences are shaped by multiple factors.Hence, it was important to focus on a distinct group of migrants to further understand these experiences.

The silences framework
The study employed 'The Silences framework' (TSF) (Serrant-Green 2011) as the theoretical underpinning to guide this study from formulation of the research question to the outputs, following through four stages.The concept of 'Screaming Silences' from which TSF was derived was developed to reflect what was left unsaid (missing theme) by study participants from a study exploring ethnicity and sexual health decision-making (Serrant-Green 2004).'Screaming Silences' are constructed by a listener (experiencing person or researcher) regarding their experiences and encompasses the personal and social context where the experience occurs.The 'Screaming' feature reflects the impact an experience has on the listener (screams out) while the 'silences' aspect refers to how these 'screams' which appear obvious to the experiencing person are not often widely shared in the society, thus they affect them in silence.The framework's usefulness continues to be proved and enhanced in other contexts as exemplified by several completed studies (Nyashanu 2017;Eshareturi et al. 2015;Rossetto et al. 2018;Janes, Sque, and Serranto 2018).This is the first time that TSF was adopted to parenting studies in the migrant population.
'The Screaming Silences' conceptual approach is underpinned by aspects of feminism, criticalist and ethnicity-based approaches.These approaches accept that human beings in a particular context at a particular time point construct their reality in a social world (Gray 2018;Serrant-Green 2011).TSF recognises the central importance of individual or group interpretations of experiences in the construction of knowledge (Serrant-Green 2011).This enables voices embedded in subjective experiences which are distanced from dominant discourses, under researched or actively silenced to be brought to light (Serrant-Green 2011).This highlights the potential of the framework to be adapted in different research contexts on under researched issues (Davies 2015).
The current parenting discourse in the UK reveals the marginalised representation of Black people in research.The criticalist viewpoints maintained in TSF resonates with this study as they centralise personal experiences as critical strategies in freeing research from rigid adherence to dominant discourses.

Methods
The phenomenological approach was chosen to explore the Zimbabwean migrant parents' experiences because it is more systematic and rigorous; and it studies phenomena, of experiences or events, in the everyday world from the viewpoint of experiencing person (Becker 1992).Methodological approaches such as this seek to tap into racial/ ethnic attributes or meanings that are seen to be rising from the racialised subjectivity and experiences of minoritised research participants (Gunaratnam 2003).Therefore, this represents a powerful space to capitalise on raw experiences and reveal issues pertinent to the Zimbabwean migrants which are under-researched.This study followed through van Manen's school of thought.van Manen (1990, 28) defines hermeneutic phenomenology as a certain theoretical philosophical framework in the 'pursuit of knowledge'.This methodology is based on the philosophical belief that: The essence of the phenomenon is uncovered by gathering text from those living it and then interpreting this text (van Manen 1990, 7).
Hence, this study explores the parents' experiences in the UK as migrants and its impact on their experiences from the Zimbabwean parents experiencing it.The relations between myself and those experiencing the phenomenon will facilitate addressing the research aims as emphasised by TSF.

Researcher identity
Confronting the researcher identity, as the vehicle through which silences are heard, identified and prioritised is a key element of TSF (Serrant-Green 2011).Many migration scholars hold the view that reflexivity should be an integral part of research, especially to challenge the nation and ethnicity-based epistemology that drives most of the migration research field (Dahinden 2016).As a migration researcher, my insider and outsider identities can function as a vital site for negotiating the reality in the research relationship (Borkert and De Tona 2006).The representation of research positionality as either insider or outsider only is not adequate to account for the diverse and complex experiences of researchers who don't fit totally in either of the categories in relation to the participating population (Wiederhold 2015).Borkert and De Tona (2006) have challenged this view because identity is ever shifting.Awareness of my positionality in negotiating the reality in the research relationship aided my attentiveness to issues of power, positionality and representation in designing the study.From this lens, I will reveal the multiple identities I bring to the research process (see Figure 1).
My identification as an insider within this study enabled me to have access to the research participants and have a level of trust and openness which could have been harder for the outsiders based on those identity markers.Confronting this controversial insider and outsider argument allowed me, from the outsider position to be cautious in the designing of the study and to be attentive to issues of power, positionality and representation while giving voice to the Zimbabwean migrant participants (Levy 2013).

Data collection
The sample for this study was Zimbabwean settled migrant parents (5 or more years in the UK) that were raised in Zimbabwe and started families in the UK, South Yorkshire.Table 1 provides the demographic profile of the study participants.This study sampled for active parents, that is, including fathers who are usually excluded from the parenting discourse (Ochieng and Hylton 2010).Black fathers are deemed to be equal players in child-rearing decisions from within or outside the household (Ochieng and Hylton 2010).The silence of men as parents was addressed by purposive and snowball sampling.As established that the target population is minoritised, they were not highly visible from recruitment sites.Thus, snowball sampling widened the reach of inaccessible populations.This study used 10 In-depth interviews (including a visual element and field notes as part of the process) with five fathers and five mothers.TSF seeks to re-address power imbalances by recognising that, for silences to come out, power within the context of this study lies in the hands of the participants (Serrant-Green 2011).Participants were asked to spend time applying their creative way by drawing or gathering image/s which reflect their parenting experience prior to their interviews.This gave participants more time and a little less constraint in developing nuanced thoughts about their parenting experience (Johnson and Weller 2002).It was assumed that giving participants reflective time can help in stimulating a better conversation.The subject matter, parenting, is more personally meaningful and immediate for the participants; individual attention is crucial in the production of knowledge.Adler and Adler (2005) highlighted that some participants may be resistant to open up about their experiences and such strategies can help in overcoming this.Interviews were audio-taped and transcribed verbatim.
I wrote field notes to complement the interview recordings.These documented nonaudio cues observed, my experiences or thoughts and general reflection of the process.Within hermeneutic phenomenology and TSF, reflexivity can possibly assist in and enrich data interpretations (Serrant-Green 2011;van Manen 1997).These notes helped to contextualise the interviews and highlighted the active parenting which I observed during the interviews.For example, the choice by participants to schedule the interview in between their seemingly busy schedules of managing work and childcare.

Data analysis
I engaged third party transcribers; this practice is advocated by Wilson (2010) for allowing the researcher time to focus on other areas of the research as it is a time-consuming process.Each written transcript was read several times while listening to the corresponding audio tape to ensure accuracy of the transcribed tape and to further immerse myself in the data.
The analysis approach integrated four phases of TSF cyclic analysis (Serrant-Green 2011) and the thematic analysis process by van Manen (Minichiello et al. 1995).The process of analysis in TSF occurs as a cycle that follows through 4 phases until the inherent silences are revealed.Consistent with hermeneutic phenomenology, understanding of the parents' experiences occur through a fusion of the pre-understandings of the research process, the interpretive framework and the sources of information (Laverty 2003).The analysis process is underpinned by the hermeneutic circle, which entails the process of moving back and forth between the parts and the whole in the process of understanding meaning and the development of a better interpretation (Laverty 2003).
As per Figure 2, Phase one of the analysis represents the initial analysis of the data collected with reference to the research question by following through thematic analysis steps by van Manen (Minichiello et al. 1995).Phase two was the review of initial study findings by the participants drawn from phase one.This phase was developed to guarantee active user viewpoints in the research process and output; and not to further silence the marginalised participant's voices (Serrant-Green 2011).This aids in creating a dialogue to identify themes or aspects of themes that the researcher might have missed and in checking the validity of the conclusions from the 'silenced' participants' perspective (Serrant-Green 2011).Undertaking this stage 'silence dialogue' was useful in approving, contesting or further contextualising the initial study themes.Feedback from the 'silence dialogue' fed into a more detailed secondary level analysis in producing draft one of the study findings.Phase three increases the scope of the user voices, therefore, I invited four individuals (See Table 2) who share a cultural background with the participants and have an interest in issues related to the migration of Zimbabweans to comment on draft one of the findings.The collective voices were asked to reflect on the 'silences' they believe still exist or remain unchanged following this study.These reflections were useful in revising draft one findings to produce draft two findings.
Phase four represents my final critical reflection in preparing the final study outputs.Moving between different levels of analysis improves the analysis and reflects the process of continually moving between the smaller and larger units of meaning.Consideration of the four lifeworld existentials by van Manen (1997) (Lived space, lived time, lived body and lived other-See Table 3) in the presentation and discussion of study findings enabled a holistic understanding of lived experiences.It allowed for visualisation of wider aspects of the lived reality and the interaction of the lifeworlds; hence there are some interactions across some themes presented.Themes identified as the final study outputs include Shared Worlds, Parenting in The UK System, The Parenting Journey and This Is Our Home Now.The data analysis process was critically discussed with my academic supervisors to ensure the appropriateness of the process and confirmed that the results were derived from the data.

Results
This study explored the Zimbabwean participants' lived experiences as parents in the UK which provided a lens for understanding the layers that structure their experiences.

Theme one: shared worlds
This theme describes Zimbabwean parents' experience of a shared world which allowed them to adjust in a seemingly unfamiliar culture, empowering them to have better experiences and give their children better opportunities.Generally, the parents felt that UK values were insufficient to raise children who can adjust in most spaces around the world.The findings show that the parents employed aspects from Zimbabwean values and UK values which enabled them to accept and reject aspects of culture which they regard as superior or inferior.Completely rejecting Zimbabwean values and the dichotomous application of two cultural values raised issues about belonging for their children.It is likely that their inhabiting of the Zimbabwean and UK cultural spaces influences issues of belonging.Religious spaces were highlighted for their role in maintaining a sense of belonging and reinforcing cultural identity.Catholic schools and church have been identified as places where children are imparted moral guidance and values that align with Zimbabwean values.This is important for them to raise their children within such spaces.
I think it helps into moulding them into being very humble, respectful kids, because at church that's what they're being taught, how to respect not only their parents but everyone.How to live with others in the community, how to present themselves as good people.
(Tsitsi, mother) Church, social networks, teachers, health visitors and online spaces are some of the resources highlighted as instrumental parenting support resources.Children also played a key role in socialising parents to understand UK values as they were immersed in the society.Church and support networks were likened to family, especially in the absence of extended family involvement in raising children like in Zimbabwe.Additionally, online groups involvement gave some mothers opportunities to engage with other Zimbabwean women and share the journey of being a migrant and a parent.The findings reveal that although better support exists among those raising children as couples, poor parenting teamwork reinforced perspectives of a patriarchal system that emphasises nurturing children as a woman's role (As in theme three).Sharing the parenting journey is an important part of this theme, although sharing creates tensions whereby some Zimbabwean fathers are still silenced from active parenting.Relates to the phenomenological notion, lived body (corporeality), that we are always bodily in the world (van Manen 1997); in relation to learning and adjusting to parenting in the UK systems.While being-in-the-world we meet bodily; including all that we feel, reveal, conceal and parts of ourselves that we share through our lived body.We communicate, interact and experience the world through the lived body (Crotty 1996).Our being-in-the-world involves the ongoing process of understanding values of the system which makes us connected in a symbolic sense, to the UK as a home.Theme Three:The Parenting Journey is framed based on the phenomenological foundation of essences aspect of lived time (temporality) of the migrant parents raising children in the UK.This does not translate to time as a measurable object but relates to the temporal way of being in the world where events give meaning to individuals and allows an understanding of where you come from (the past), present experiences and a perspective of the future (van Manen 1997).In uncovering their lived experiences, the participants' narratives were contextualised in time.Theme Four: This is our home now is related to the notion of lived space (spatiality) which in phenomenology denotes part of the ontological structure of a human being (van Manen 1997).This does not refer to mathematical space but a subjective phenomenon of 'felt space'.Felt space is related to how the space in which we find ourselves affects the way we feel.Space can affect the way we feel, hence, lived space helps us to understand our lifeworld and it is an individually experienced place that is not concrete or fixed (van Manen 1997).Similar to lived time, lived space is also temporal and relative in nature.
Theme two: parenting in the UK system This theme relates to the parents' lived experience within the UK system including assumptions they can make about what is happening, what is expected of them and their reaction in appropriate ways by adjusting to the system to feel connected.Power balanced relations between Zimbabwean born parents and their UK born children are dependent on multiple factors including meaning and societal expectations.Negotiating power in parent-child relations is based on accepting, without objection of perceived aspects of UK or Western parenting.The parents described a process which involved peeling back of old patterns that were integral to their upbringing when negotiating power in interactions with their children.
We felt like the power was becoming powerless so … there was a bit of like evening, like almost an even ground; even your daughter you are negotiating.(Ranga, father) Discussions linked to protecting children had fear as an integral factor common especially as participants drew on their identity as Black Zimbabweans who tend to have different experiences, are likely to be discriminated and face racism.
Essentially as parents we need to make decisions wisely.Black kids have a label already and we have to work extra hard for that label not to stick.Mashift akawandisa(Working a lot of shifts) leaving kids here there and everywhere should be avoided.We need to be there to protect these children.[Healthy lifestyle Advisor (Father)] Aspects of race and living as a racial minority in the UK influenced how they navigated various systems in the UK.Parents also described their experience with the health and social care system.Better access to healthcare which has improved engagement with preventative services and health-seeking behaviours has fulfilled some of the key reasons for migrating.However, there is poor understanding by healthcare professionals, leaving parents to do most of the work of explaining.For instance, the concept of weight monitoring for different ethnic systems.
… the differences with the systems.And I think here they're more, because I think it's a bit of not understanding us as immigrants as well, where we're coming from and where we're going.Maybe they see our systems, like maybe they are not as thorough or they lack scrutiny, or because of that difference it takes you to explain to the people here that OK where I'm coming from we do one, two, three … … .. (Zuva, mother) The parents are aware of what is expected of them in the current system, and they are aware of the severity of consequences of not acting in the way they are supposed to in the process of raising their children and maintaining their health and wellbeing.This was revealed in discussions about Social Services, schools and health services.The parents felt conflicted over raising children in a place where the state and child welfare institutions are involved in children's upbringing and their ability to raise their children as they wished.The perceived heavy policing is an issue that affects them particularly as migrants, but other groups in society are likely to also feel controlled and policed in this way, especially those who feel less powerful.
I learnt to accept that in UK you can actually be disowned and hearing stories; you know I hear stories about people's kids who have left home and they reported them to Social Services.(Ranga, father) I propose that the issue of child safeguarding and disciplining reflects the tensions and mistrust of the system based on children's rights, cultural differences and how well they feel the system suits their parenting approach.The findings reveal that parents recognise that there are cultural differences (as in theme one) and that some issues they are confronted with are not unique to them as Zimbabwean.Their view of cultural differences may contribute to their attitudes towards British parenting practices.The parents find ways to renegotiate cultural differences and at times they painfully coexist for them to effectively parent within the UK value systems.
Another dimension of protecting children is around their fears about exposing their children to technological devices and social media.These worries come at a time when it is fairly popular for children of all ages to engage with digital devices and explore social media.The parents felt the need to protect children from a perceived dangerous internet environment.In most narratives, parents would only be comfortable with internet use when their children have a better sense of protecting themselves.

Theme three: the parenting journey
These findings suggested the influence of the past, present or anticipated experiences on the parenting journey.The actualisation of the past and future expectations is what shapes the present experience as revealed in the following subthemes.

Subtheme 1: cultural transmission in an ever-changing world
The diaspora provides space where internalised cultural and social scripts are challenged as the parents raise their children in spaces that are inhabited by others from diverse cultures, which raises tensions when issues of belonging are considered.
For the participants in this study, transmitting aspects of Zimbabwean culture is a dynamic process.Participants draw on elements of the Zimbabwean culture from memories of how they were raised.With the growing Zimbabwean diaspora, there is hope that the community should be more organised to collectively transmit cultural elements to UK-born children.Maintenance of vernacular language and traditional foods were some key elements that parents referred to, especially comparing themselves to some established diaspora communities (For instance, Pakistanis and Indians) who have managed to transmit these cultural elements to their children.I've noticed [Noah] has got a friend of his who's from Pakistan, they go to their own community centres there being taught their languages.They get so much to learn there about their culture.Whereas us, because we don't have time, always working.(Tsitsi, mother) I suggest that, like some participants' generalisations and homogenising of all Zimbabweans, there are likely generalisations of certain practices on all Pakistanis and Indians.Narrations of efforts to transmit aspects of their Zimbabwean culture which they were raised into their UK born children revealed the invisible burden that parents have to fulfil their desire and perceived expectations.
The busy lifestyle in this country hustling for shifts to better ourselves and feed our folks back home leaves little time to mould our children's lives.[Online group pioneer (Mother)] Subtheme 2: altering gender roles A common theme across their different professions (sample was over-represented in the health sector) was that taking on a lot of shift work is problematic amongst Zimbabweans in the UK because of how it impacts the quality of family life.The findings also revealed how change in gender roles was initially met with resistance along the parenting journey.Traditional aspects of gender roles are deeply rooted in Zimbabwean society such that the participants' perception of mothers' and fathers' roles prove hard to challenge due to how the parents were socialised.Some resistance remains especially amongst women due to low confidence in man's nurturing ability, conformity to idealised womanhood and the negative perceptions of the extended family on men's involvement.
On the negative culturally, because culture is culture and we cannot deny it, there are instances where maybe an in-law visits and finds your husband is busy doing chores that are traditionally stigmatised or linked to be done by women, they don't take it very well.(Zuva, mother) Some women think that they are better than men, and they think that men cannot be responsible of their kids as well.We are capable, especially when it comes to this country … We can do, this country, like in their minds and it's, we are all equal.What men can do women can do … .(Paul, father) It is likely that encounters with beliefs of gender equality became a ground to contest ascribed gender roles in raising children.Observing 'British' fathers being involved in raising their children also influenced some of the participants' easing into more active fatherly roles and similar observations altered some mothers' beliefs.The UK opened new possibilities for fathers to spend more time with children and for the parents to reconfigure family life by challenging ascribed gendered cultural identities based on notions of gender roles.
I had to accept that as a male parent and as a father, I had to change nappies.So I had to change it to maybe bath my daughter when she was young, which is something I would never do in Zimbabwe.I think my sister, my dad has never … .given a bath to any of us when I was growing up … .(Ranga, father) It was apparent that these changes were challenging but provided new opportunities fathers to spend significant time with their children.
It was like a lot of changes that took place, of which some took it negatively, some took it positively.Because with some men they appreciated, like my son and his dad.Because they had that bonding … .. (Zuva, mother) In most narratives, the UK was described as a society that allows more opportunities for family time and fewer opportunities in some instances.She avidly described the benefits of fathers assuming an active parent role.For Zuva, there was a lot to gain by embracing gender role dynamics.
It was evident that upon migration, parents are involved in a process of reconstruction of gender roles as they are confronted with different family values and more mothers are also employed.I suggest that the diaspora provides space where internalised cultural and social scripts are challenged as the parents raise their children in spaces that are inhabited by others from diverse cultures which raises tensions when issues of belonging are considered.
Theme four: this is our home now This theme described the UK as a place where the parents could envision as, and have made their home.The felt-parenting environment helped parents to adapt to parenting in the UK to make it their home.Their perceived sense of belonging in the UK is also based on how parents navigate education spaces.The findings provide important insights into the perceived value of a good education and what that looks like to the parents.Migrant life is characterised with seeking out the best schools based on the potential for children's success and religious values.The lived space is one which offers choice in educational institutions.
Other participants perceived success-driven opportunities available to children solidify the UK as a home for their families.The parents prioritise safeguarding their children's future.They provide important insights into their collective ambitions for children and inadvertently signal a challenge to attain high levels of success given the lived realities of migrant life explored in previous themes.
Of course obviously you are an immigrant, and then you're coming here, you want the best for your kids.(Ayanda, mother) The possibilities of their children getting more opportunities in the UK create a dilemma, based on feelings of belonging or (un)belonging for families, between deciding to stay or to return to Zimbabwe.
Parenting in UK has actually made it acceptable for most parents including myself to live here.Maybe on a permanent base, because I can't go back and live somebody who is still young and kind of a career to look forward to.(Ranga, father) In making the UK their home, participants narrated how they reimagine family life in arranging childcare; citing separation from extended family and new aspects of migrant life.Although the common view was that navigating childcare was challenging, gaining financial capital and social capital as they integrated has helped to settle in the UK and build a sense of belonging.
But a year after that we had stayed here we managed to sort of integrate into the Zimbabwean community.… … when we got into that community it was a lot easier, because you could actually leave the kids with friends sometimes, or they could stay at somebody's house that we knew from church, and we would also do the same for them … .(Tafara, father) The inconsistency in relation to means and ways of maintaining their children's health and wellbeing and the need for self-help to maintain health and well-being was apparent from the parents' experiences.Parents go through the process of knowing the 'what' and the 'where' to help inform the 'how' in best supporting their children's best interests' especially considering their upbringing in a different environment with longstanding cultural beliefs and practices.
Furthermore, parents describe an environment that can be potentially unhealthy without the helpful advice, modelling, financial and other input of the parent.In this way, they can be effective parents at maintaining their children's health and wellbeing in the UK.
When it comes to nutrition it's a partnership.It's a multi-sectoral partnership.You cannot say my child is doing well nutritionally because I'm giving him a healthy diet.You also get help.Because what I might call a healthy diet culturally like I was saying I can be giving sadza sadza without knowing what a balanced diet is.(Zuva, mother) I have shown that notions of 'home' and belonging are defined in many ways.Concurrently, they strengthen their cultural identities and connection to Zimbabwe in the process.

Discussion and conclusions: key silences
This study explored Zimbabwean participants' lived experiences as parents in the UK which provided a lens for understanding the layers that structure their experiences as presented in the preceding themes.The silences arising from this study reflect and/or further extend the existing research in the study of migrant parenting experiences.While some silences are generic to parenting, there are some important aspects that embody the Zimbabwean migrants' life.The pull of the past and the future is strong in the experiences of the parents.Anthias (2012) has challenged migration scholars to consider the contextual factors which shape cultural identities and experiences.Hall (1997a) further argues that cultural identities are constructed via the nexus of the past and the present.The parents in this study find themselves raising children and living in a cultural context that has many differences to Zimbabwe, which they must negotiate.Therefore, to understand the parents' reconstructions of their cultural identities, it is important to consider how aspects of their upbringing in Zimbabwe have shaped their identities.
Participants mourn the loss of aspects of their Zimbabwean life where they had the support of domestic helpers and extended family in raising their children.This was a central way that some of the participants managed to balance work and meet their cultural gendered expectations in family life.The participants tended to contrast their gendered identities in the UK with how gender and parenthood are conceptualised in Zimbabwe.Unlike in Zimbabwe where mothers were responsible for the household and child-rearing, the parents in this study share responsibilities.These gender-household relations that structure the process of settlement have also been documented as silence for migrant Somali families in Sweden (Wiklund et al. 2000).The involvement of men in child-rearing was viewed as problematic by some men and women in this study.Similarly, Degni, Pöntinen, and Mölsä (2006) in a study with Somali parents raising their children in Finland also found that men's involvement was regarded as a disruption of socio-cultural borders.Other women in this study internalised motherhood as their main identity and some were resistant to men's involvement.In a study with women in Harare (Zimbabwe), Shaw (2015) found that women centred their identity around motherhood and religion which impacted their being in the world, and they did not challenge cultural beliefs and norms.This study illustrates the intersection of gender, religion and culture in reinforcing traditional gender roles.Fathers' involvement in child-rearing has transformed and redefined mothering in the diaspora.The silences of Zimbabwean men parenting experiences in the UK have been changed by their participation in this study.
Children of foreign-born parents play the role of guiding parents with aspects of the UK cultural space.They are better positioned for this role as they participate in mainstream culture through attending school (Roland 1996).At the same time, parents hope to be in a place to teach their children aspects of Zimbabwean cultural values, traditions and language.Migrant communities use language as a cultural boundary marker that reinforces their sense of belonging and as a vehicle to transmit other aspects of their cultures and traditions (Edwards and Temple 2007;Hall 1997b).Furthermore, to maintain transnational and extended family relationships, migrants teach their children their languages (Farr et al. 2018).Intermarriage has reduced the ability of some participants to teach their children the Shona language (Zimbabwe's main native language).Consistent with the assimilation theory, race or ethnic boundaries can be porous in these circumstances where identification with any side of the boundary is not clear cut (Kesler and Schwartzman 2015).This, therefore, represents an issue that is not confined to the Zimbabwean diaspora only.The parents believed that transmitting aspects of cultural practices serves to create distance between them and other diverse groups in the UK.Particularly, the participants' comparison to the Pakistani community who have visibly managed to transmit aspects of their culture to their children.Shona customs, however, give the responsibility to teach children cultural values to the mothers (Bourdillon, Pfigu, and Chinodya 2006;Mbakogu 2014).Considering that most migrant mothers are not confined in their households, there is need to rethink the process.Teaching children Zimbabwean cultural values, beliefs and practices remain a silence even for the participants as they find it a challenging task.The integration of Zimbabwean and UK cultural aspects is common in this study.Accepting their mixed alignment to two cultural spaces can facilitate the parents' ability to fully engage in enjoyable experiences of raising children (Akhtar 1999).However, other parents wanted their children to embrace the Zimbabwean culture and thus reinforce the Zimbabwean identity only.The findings presented correspond with the internal-external dialect of identification coined by Jenkins (1996) whereby the identity of children is negotiated based on how parents identify their children, how they self-identify and how others see them.The socialisation process is therefore a key silence.
Parents in this study try to cultivate an element of belonging based on religion.Some studies on the Zimbabwean diaspora echoed that membership to a religious group created a sense of belonging, serves their spiritual needs and connects them to other Zimbabweans (Biri 2015;Machoko 2013;Pasura 2014).Interacting with other Zimbabweans in religious spaces also helped the participants to fulfil their parenting responsibilities and gave children elements of belonging.
Parents in this study noticed how opportunities available to their children expanded once settled in the UK.However, the participants and their children experience the racism embedded in different systems, institutions and social environments.Barley (2019) captured how children in a primary school context were aware of racial differences, and further highlighted how they are then socialised to have perspectives about people from different racial backgrounds which perpetuate inequalities.Understandably, parents in this study fear that their children will be subject to these inequalities.Brown (1998) argues that schools have been passive in tackling racism and suggested adopting an anti-discriminatory approach.This view is also supported by Au (2009) and Barley (2019) who reveal that this advice has not been heeded.This exposes the silences related to belonging and (un)belonging for children born to Zimbabwean parents in school spaces.
Return migration came up in discussions where parents perceived a lack of belonging and the need to immerse their children in Zimbabwean culture.Akhtar (1999) discussed the 'migrant's fantasy' of returning to the home country out of fear of having created a distance from the country and its cultural values or practices by attaching to the destination country.In cases where parents envisioned opportunities for children in the UK, their notions of home were tied to a better life for their children and their attachment to the UK.This confirms that mechanisms of inclusion and exclusion in the destination country, emotional attachments and feeling at home form the concept of belonging (Anthias 2001;Davis, Ghorashi, and Smets 2018;Yuval-Davis 2006).
Parents in this study struggled to exercise authority in disciplining their children as they viewed State policies enforced by the Social Services as mechanisms that serve to empower children while disempowering them.Tettey and Puplampu (2006) note that the modes of discipline commonly used by Africans such as smacking can be criminalised.This induced fear for some parents in this study, however, other participants did not agree with instilling discipline through spanking.This reflects on how well they feel the system suits their approach to child-rearing.While the parents may experience the seemingly heavy policing as an issue that affects them particularly as immigrants; other groups in society are likely to also feel controlled and policed in this way.Raffaetà (2016), in a review on migration and parenting in the USA and the UK, argued that parenting practices vary even within ethnic groups.Therefore, labelling African ways of discipline abusive homogenises diverse cultures and families.This further marginalises the African diaspora families who might feel that the destination country's practices are deemed the good standard (Raffaetà 2016).I suggest that the participants in this study wanted to reserve some forms of discipline to preserve their cultural values in a diasporic space.
This study exposes the silence that transnational responsibilities in the form of remitting money to Zimbabwe and stresses related to migrant life affect parents' experiences (Merry, Pelaez, and Edwards 2017;Mugadza et al. 2019).Some participants in this study feel pressured to take on extra work hours to meet up their transnational responsibilities, which limits the time they spend with children.McGregor (2007) highlighted the long hours and 'double shifts' (combining day and night shifts) that Zimbabwean carers and others in low paid unskilled jobs normalised.Notably, Zimbabwean migrants' work ethic likely shifts as they get settled in the UK, acquire professional qualifications and find space in the labour market.It is mportant to note that, despite their skill levels before migration, migrants from new African diaspora's become concentrated in low skilled jobs where they are required to work according to shift patterns (McGregor 2007).The economic challenges in Zimbabwe, therefore, impact the family life in the UK.The transnational burdens could be a silence for other migrant groups who have connections to their birth countries.
The use of language is key to silencing minoritised participants.I unearthed this during the recruitment process where I was asked questions such as 'Would this be in English?'; and before interviews where other participants would highlight statements like 'my English is not so good'.Although I gave them the opportunity to be heard in any language comfortable for them, some participants even paused before saying a Shona phrase.It is important to note that the historical ties and robust education policy soon after Zimbabwe's independence enabled many Black Zimbabweans to be proficient in English (Ndlovu 2010).I suggest that my outside positioning as a researcher posing the research questions in the English language might have been a barrier in the research process.This study has not addressed this silence around interview language which likely further compounds some silences harboured by Zimbabwean migrants.
This study has added to the growing body of knowledge on the Zimbabwean diaspora in the UK.It enabled a fuller picture of the migration journey from Zimbabwe and aspects that embody migrant life to be revealed.Previous studies have focused on a broader group of migrants and homogenised Zimbabweans under African migrants.This study also adds to the growing body of knowledge on migrant families.Families are predominantly perceived as nuclear, however, the way that the participants define families is broad.They function effectively as extended families, therefore the definition of families for different contexts needs to be accounted for in families' research.By adding insight into migrants' origin culture, this study has shown the nature of Zimbabwean families which impacts their experiences.
The use of TSF in this study proves that it can be a valuable framework in migrant family studies.Its emphasis on contextualising has shown the different ways participants are marginalised and the silences inherent to their status.This made me aware of how omission from the study could further marginalise the participants.Thus, I have included fathers as they have a valuable contribution to the parenting discourse.Other groups that could have been omitted included asylum seekers and refugees; engaging with TSF brings this to light.The flexibility allowed by the TSF challenges and allows for migration researchers to be creative in ways to explore experiences.Further studies which take the role of extended family in the migration context is an important gap to address since this study.The pull of the past demonstrated in this study calls for better generation of knowledge of transnational resources, and how these can be optimised to inform services towards supporting migrant families.Social workers, healthcare workers amongst others working closely with migrant families may then be better equipped to promote protective factors, mobilise untapped resources and support migrant families in dealing with their day-to-day life experiences.I demonstrated that migrant parents are not passive to their experiences, as they actively negotiate and renegotiate aspects of their being in the world.

Figure 2 .
Figure 2. Diagrammatic representation of the analytic strategy.

Table 1 .
General profile of participants.

Table 2 .
Profiles of four collective voices.
A migrant support group pioneer Mother and migration lawyer Healthy lifestyle advisor Father who has supported previous research on Zimbabwe and blogs about health across Zimbabwe Social worker Mother who steered the formation of a closed online group for Zimbabwean women Social media commentator Mother and voice of Zimbabwean migrants on social media I'm working on and facing on, trying to mix the two cultures together: some of the things I negotiate and some of the things I use the Zimbabwe culture and tell them what to do … .. (Mutsa, mother)

Table 3 .
Lifeworld existentials/themes representation.Theme One: Shared Worlds is linked to the phenomenological notion of lived other (relationality).It represents the relationships that people have with others and how as a mode of being in the world, they relate to others and reveal their lifeworld (van Manen 1997).Hence, people are not in isolation as they are always embedded in the world and are socially engaged.The way that we connect to the world allows us to adjust in different environments.Theme Two: Parenting in the UK System